Drive Your Date Wild

Drive Your Date Wild

By Margot Carmichael Lester

Put on a happy face
This may seem obvious, but many people don't use this foolproof weapon. Giving a grin makes people like you more because they think that you like them. A nice smile also makes you appear approachable and accessible. Looking earnest or thoughtful isn't bad as long as you actually are those things. Try to avoid grimacing, however.

Tip: When my pal Al is concentrating — or not paying attention at all — he tends to furrow his brow, making him appear unapproachable and sometimes even angry. He was totally unaware until another friend mentioned it to him. The next time he went out, he made an effort to wear a pleasant expression and people actually talked to him!

Fit in time
Everyone's attracted to a fit bod – and the energy that comes along with good health. But that doesn't mean you have to be a gym rat. In fact, symmetry counts for a lot, so pick up a sport that uses both sides or halves of your body equally (to avoid being lopsided).

Tip: Add a yoga session to your workout regimen. It not only works all parts of your body (including your mind), it also creates a firmer, more toned physique.

Clothes make an impression
Your wardrobe says a lot about you. It's not so much which style you wear (casual, Western, haute couture), but the quality of what you wear. Whatever clothing you choose should reflect your lifestyle and preferences, be made from the best quality fabrics you can afford and fit you correctly. If you're more comfortable in jeans and a T-shirt, don't go out every night in your Sunday best. You'll not only put off an uncomfortable vibe, but you'll be engaging in a bit of false advertising.

Tip: Make sure your shoes are always in good condition to avoid losing points with your date.

Make sure you pass the sniff test
Appealing to the olfactory sense is crucial, because a person's smell triggers subconscious responses in potential mates. But if your natural odor is masked by grime or heavy scents, your date may not be able to tell by smell that you're the one. So, shower regularly, wear clean clothes and go easy on the sprays and lotions.

Tip: Over time, your own sense of smell is dulled to your deodorant and personal scent of choice, so once you find the right amount, spritz it on and do not add more, even if you can't smell it.

Project confidence
Self-confidence is hugely sexy. Not feeling terribly confident? Start thinking of yourself as someone other people want to date. Smile, stand/sit up straight and look people in the eye. Be careful not to appear over-confident, however. Arrogance is a major turn-off.

Tip: If you can see it, you can be it, so engage in a little creative visualization. Imagine you're the star of your own show with the audience appreciatively cheering you on.

Margot Carmichael Lester is a freelance writer who frequently contributes to Happen magazine.