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Tied up...legs spread...and totally exposed.‏

from admin on 03/20/2016 12:31 PM

The pipe under my kitchen sink sprung a leak yesterday.

Why am I telling you this?

Well, the technician who came to my rescue — James — did more than fix my plumbing problem...

He also told me a story that I think a lot of men will relate to...LEARN something from.

See, while James tinkered under the sink, we started chatting a bit...just small talk...

But when I told James that I worked as a sex coach — and helped men all over the world have hotter sex and better relationships...

...his eyes lit up!

"Well, maybe you can give them a little advice on my behalf," James said...

"Because I recently did something I never thought I'd do — you know, in the sex department. But let me tell you, it changed my life!"

And after he told me what happened, I realized James was right...

Other guys (both married and single ) really SHOULD hear his story!

So here it is:

James recently divorced his wife of 33 years...but their sex life died long before that.

Needless to say, James he was ready to get back out there.

So he started signing up to different dating websites...

And while browsing women's profiles, noticed that, in the section where they were asked to describe what they were "looking for"...

...the vast majority of them all said the same thing:

They wanted a "real" man.

And James admitted that he found this a bit confusing...

Because...what does it mean to be a 'real man'?

James played football in high school...he worked with his hands...he loved sex...

But he wasn't a fighter...he had no tattoos and no desire to get any...

And he certainly wasn't controlling or aggressive around women.

If anything, James had always believed in being a gentleman...

He never raised his voice...and always treated girls with respect.

At first, James wondered if maybe his ways were too old fashioned for the modern dating world...

He even wondered if maybe his marriage lost its spark, because he was "too nice"...and "nice guys" just aren't sexy to women?

But then he met a woman named Betty. They were introduced by mutual friends...and James was totally smitten.

Betty was beautiful, kind, and very smart...

Their first few dates went perfectly...

But when Betty went back to his place for the very first time...things took a weird turn.

James knew they would be having sex — and he couldn't wait...

But after some hot and heavy foreplay, Betty suggested something that made him feel very uncomfortable.

"I want you to TIE me up...then, do whatever you please with my body."

Tying a woman up? James had never done that before.

He'd heard about it...and seen it in adult films...

But he always thought it seemed disrespectful — even violent.

And he couldn't image why any woman would WANT to be tied up.

"Why would I need to tie you up...don't you want to have sex with me? I'm not worried about you running away!" James asked nervously.

Betty could tell that James had never experimented with bondage before...so she let it go...and they made love.

But the next day Betty brought it back up.

"James, I really like you," she said...

"But I'm into some kinky things...and I need a man who can satisfy my needs. My ex-husband wasn't very adventurous in bed and that's why we split up...I don't want that to happen with YOU."

So Betty talked James into attending a bondage class with her.

She said it would be a good way to introduce him to the world of kink...and help him become more comfortable with the idea of exploring her darker fantasies...

"You might even discover that YOU have some kinky fantasies too" she told him.

The class was located in a plain building in an industrial area. It looked like a small business on the outside...but a DUNGEON on the inside!

James panicked when he first saw the all the whips, chains — and things that looked like torture devices...

But then he noticed that the other "students" (and even the instructor) all looked like perfectly normal people...

...which was a HUGE relief!

And then, it was time for the first "demonstration"...

The instructor had a woman tied up on the table...

She was only wearing a bra and panties...her arms were tied together above her head...and her legs were spread wide open and strapped tightly to the table.

Normally, James would have found a scene like that to be horrific — after all, controlling a woman's body like that didn't seem like a very 'nice' thing to do...

But for some reason, with Betty by his side, he felt relaxed...and was even starting to get kind of turned on..

And his cock got even harder when he saw what happened NEXT!

The instructor put a cloth in the woman's mouth and told her to bite down on it. Once her mouth closed around the cloth he reached down...and pulled her panties to the side!

At first, James couldn't believe that this girl was letting her pussy be exposed to the whole class...but there it was...and it looked like it was starting to get WET.

The instructor started teasing her body...pinching her nipples...and slapping her clit...

The sound of his palm against her flesh sounded like he was using quite a bit of force...but the woman moaned with pleasure every time!

As the class went on, James learned about many different ways and positions to tie a person up in...

He and Betty even got to try some of them in front of the class — with James doing all the tying, of course.

And throughout the class, the instructor kept reminding them that the KEY to a satisfying bondage experience...

...is for the person who is being tied up to relax and give their partner FULL control.

And suddenly it clicked...

James finally got why Betty liked being tied up so much:

It made her feel vulnerable...it felt a little dangerous and exciting...

But most importantly, being dominated turned Betty on...

...because it made her man look extra MANLY!

And even though Betty was a very independent woman — and would never let a man disrespect her or treat her badly...

When it came to SEX, her primal instincts made Betty crave the dominant touch of a 'real man'...a man who takes CHARGE.

Afterwards, she even admitted all of this to James herself.

She confessed that when he was tying her up, it made him more attractive than ever...

It made him look powerful and assertive — and when he took on that masculine identity, it made Betty very wet!

From that day on, James said he started to see 'kink' in a whole new light...

"I guess the lesson here is: You never know until you try it...and that's something EVERY guy needs to remember," James told me...

"You know, you only live once...and you're not getting any younger!"

And not only did James discover an amazing new source of sexual pleasure...

Bondage also taught him that being a "real" man doesn't mean you need a motorcycle or a tattoo...or that you need to get into fights and be a jerk to women...

It simply meant being more assertive and passionate in his sex life!

So I hope YOU found James' story as inspiring as I did...

And remember — the lesson here isn't that you should go out and take a bondage class...or that you should start tying up your girl every time you f*ck...

It's that you should always be open to new experiences...and when it comes to sex, you should try EVERYTHING at least once...

After all, you never know — something you THINK you won't enjoy, might turn out to be your new favorite thing;)

And now that I've told you what happened to James...I wanna know if anything like this has ever happened to YOU!

Maybe you recently discovered a fetish you never knew you had?

Maybe you tried a position or technique you'd never done before?

Maybe you even had sex with a girl who isn't your usual "type"...and loved it?

Whatever it was...let me know. I love hearing about 'first times' and naughty new experiences!

XOXO,
Shawna

3 tricks for INSTANT sexual confidence‏

from admin on 03/13/2016 12:12 PM

Everyone feels insecure in bed from time to time...

...and I'm NOT just talking about questioning your size, or worrying about not getting a hard on.

After all, sex can make even the most confident person feel vulnerable and exposed.

And it doesn't matter if you're sleeping with girl for the 1st time, or getting intimate with long-time lover...sex is almost ALWAYS nerve-wracking!

I mean, you have so many things to worry about...

Does your body look okay that day?....Will you be able to satisfy?...Is she bored?...Will you live up to her expectations?

Don't worry, these thoughts are TOTALLY normal.

But lack of confidence is also the #1 cause of bad sex...and perhaps the BIGGEST turn off for any woman!

Because when a girl sees you doubting your body or your performance...she'll end up doubting you too.

But, if you ACT like a rock star — bold, self-assured, fearless, and in control...

She'll won't have any reason to look for flaws or short-comings.

In fact, whatever you do lack — like if you don't have the 'perfect' body, or if you don't know a lot of 'advanced' sex techniques — she probably won't even notice...as long as you give the ILLUSION of confidence.

Seriously — if you just act like you're 'God's gift to women'...she'll believe you really are.

And more importantly, if you get in the habit of acting like you're 'The Man'...after a while YOU'LL start to believe it too!

And when sexual confidence becomes second nature...sex will feel easy, relaxing, and just plain more FUN every time you f*ck!

Of course, I 'feeling confident' is easier said than done...

So here are 3 easy tricks for getting into the mindset of a sexual HOT SHOT...

And they're GUARANTEED to help kick those those nagging insecurities out of your sex life!

1. REFRAME

Make a mental list all the BAD things that could happen...and then find something positive about each one!

Here are some examples...

"She won't like the way I look naked" becomes:

"Women are insecure about their bodies too — even more so than men. So when she sees my flaws, she won't feel as embarrassed about her flaws...and that will make her loosen up and unleash her WILD side...

...which is going to make for some AMAZING sex!"

"My cock might not get hard" becomes:

"If I don't get hard, it'll give me a chance to show her how great I am at eating pussy...which she'd never let me do if I had a raging boner!"

"I won't make her orgasm" becomes:

"That's a perfect opportunity to show her I'm the most attentive lover she's ever had...Because when I'll ask her exactly what she need me to do — then do it until she CUMS — she'll be blown away by my commitment to her needs!"

You can do this with literally ANY negative scenario you think of...and it'll help you to quickly conquer your fears!

2. REDEFINE

What is 'reality' anyway? There is no way to define it, because every person's reality is DIFFERENT...

...and at the end of the day, your reality depends on YOUR perception of the world around you.

And that means you can actually CHOOSE what you want your reality to be — after all, if no 2 person's reality is ever same anyway...why not?

So, let's say you're worried about not being as good in bed as other guys your girl has been with...

Well, in your new reality: All of her exes were PATHETIC in bed!

Even if she's TOLD you that she's been with some very skilled lovers...

In your new reality: She's just saying that to make you jealous...because she's scared of losing the BEST lover she's ever had (you!).

Or if you're self-conscious about some part of your body...

In your new reality: That's the part of your body that turns her on the MOST...in fact, she has a fetish for your ______ (spare tire, hairy chest, short stature, or anything else you're insecure about!).

It sounds silly at first...

But if you practice thinking about things the way you WANT them to be — instead of focusing on what they might be in another person's 'reality'...

Eventually, your perspective will permanently shift...

And soon the reality you want, will become the reality to actually live in...and that's a reality in which you're always THE MAN!

3. REFOCUS

At the end of the day, sex is about one thing and one thing only...PLEASURE!

And yes, it's about her pleasure as much as it is your pleasure — but keep in mind:

She won't be able to enjoy the experience, if she knows you're not fully enjoying it too...

Because great sex is an EXCHANGE of positive energy.

So if you're too busy worrying about the mechanics of getting her off...

Or you can't relax and be present (because your thoughts are consumed by insecurities or self-doubt)...

She'll KNOW you're not getting much pleasure out of the experience...

...because you'll be transfering your negative thoughts and anxiety to your partner, INSTEAD of the positive energy she needs.

And when that happens, none of the things you do with your cock, or fingers, or tongue will matter one bit — she will NOT get off.

So the best thing you can do in bed is to clear your mind...and just focus on all the wonderful sensations around you!

The sight of her body...the erotic smell of her arousal...the feel of her body pressed tightly against yours...

Concentrate on how good it feels to be doing what you're doing...WHILE you're doing it.

And DON'T think about anything that's in the past — or hasn't yet happened.

Basically...just relax and enjoy YOURSELF;)

And that's it — believe it or not, bedroom confidence all depends on these 3 simple rules!

In fact, these are same 3 rules that helped me to come out of my shell when I first discovered sex...

And I guess they worked SO well...that I became confident enough to start doing it on CAMERA haha=)

So imagine what they'll do for you!

XOXO,
Shawna

Drive Your Date Wild

from admin on 02/09/2016 11:35 AM

By Margot Carmichael Lester

 

Put on a happy face
This may seem obvious, but many people don't use this foolproof weapon. Giving a grin makes people like you more because they think that you like them. A nice smile also makes you appear approachable and accessible. Looking earnest or thoughtful isn't bad as long as you actually are those things. Try to avoid grimacing, however.

Tip: When my pal Al is concentrating — or not paying attention at all — he tends to furrow his brow, making him appear unapproachable and sometimes even angry. He was totally unaware until another friend mentioned it to him. The next time he went out, he made an effort to wear a pleasant expression and people actually talked to him!

Fit in time
Everyone's attracted to a fit bod – and the energy that comes along with good health. But that doesn't mean you have to be a gym rat. In fact, symmetry counts for a lot, so pick up a sport that uses both sides or halves of your body equally (to avoid being lopsided).

Tip: Add a yoga session to your workout regimen. It not only works all parts of your body (including your mind), it also creates a firmer, more toned physique.

Clothes make an impression
Your wardrobe says a lot about you. It's not so much which style you wear (casual, Western, haute couture), but the quality of what you wear. Whatever clothing you choose should reflect your lifestyle and preferences, be made from the best quality fabrics you can afford and fit you correctly. If you're more comfortable in jeans and a T-shirt, don't go out every night in your Sunday best. You'll not only put off an uncomfortable vibe, but you'll be engaging in a bit of false advertising.

Tip: Make sure your shoes are always in good condition to avoid losing points with your date.

Make sure you pass the sniff test
Appealing to the olfactory sense is crucial, because a person's smell triggers subconscious responses in potential mates. But if your natural odor is masked by grime or heavy scents, your date may not be able to tell by smell that you're the one. So, shower regularly, wear clean clothes and go easy on the sprays and lotions.

Tip: Over time, your own sense of smell is dulled to your deodorant and personal scent of choice, so once you find the right amount, spritz it on and do not add more, even if you can't smell it.

Project confidence
Self-confidence is hugely sexy. Not feeling terribly confident? Start thinking of yourself as someone other people want to date. Smile, stand/sit up straight and look people in the eye. Be careful not to appear over-confident, however. Arrogance is a major turn-off.

Tip: If you can see it, you can be it, so engage in a little creative visualization. Imagine you're the star of your own show with the audience appreciatively cheering you on.

Margot Carmichael Lester is a freelance writer who frequently contributes to Happen magazine.